Get out of my way!!! When my granddaughter was a little tike (well littler than now), she had a toy that looked like the steering column of a car and it had a horn. When you pushed that horn a woman’s high pitched voice would come on and scream, “Get out of my way”!
Enabling – we all have our thorns in life to deal with and change. This seems to be mine, well one of them. For whatever reason, I do not like to see people I love be uncomfortable, sad, angry or experience any negative feeling. So I take it upon myself to step in the way and make it better. Now this is fine and dandy when you are making your children’s boo-boo’s better with a kiss and a band aid. But there comes a time when assisting becomes enabling. In essence an enabler is “playing GOD”. A classic enabler will do and do and do until they are so out of “do’s” that their mind, body and spirit cave.
The world is tough. It is not always tough – but we all have to work hard, pay bills, pay taxes, deal with health issues, deal with kids…. This is LIFE. GOD is there to go before us IF we let HIM and assist us in dealing with the tough stuff. Unless…….. There is an enabler in the way. Truthfully an enabler is a wall between healthy living for all parties concerned and being stagnated, enmeshed and growth-prevented in every way.
I say… Hello I am Deni, I AM an enabler. I want to get better and I am asking my LORD for forgiveness, and assistance to stop! GOD is giving me a BIG “Get out of me way” because in essence, if people are relying on me, they may be less apt to rely on GOD. THIS IS NOT GOOD!!
Like an addict, I have a long road ahead, many changes to make and much amends to make. It has taken me 53 and one half years to get here but by GOD’s grace and mercy, I think I am on the road to recovery.
In JOB 5:17, Blessed is the one whom GOD corrects, so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty.
Hebrews 12:7 What you endure disciplines you: God is treating you as sons. Is there a son whom his father does not discipline?
I am getting it. Not only am I standing in the way of my growth, I am standing in the way of others. My intentions I thought were good but truthfully, they were of the flesh. My own discomfort was the actual reason. I do not like it when others suffer. But truthfully, as said above, what you endure, disciplines you and you grow.
Hard lessons on my walk with JESUS. I am ready to change. I am scared. But with HIM who strengthens me, I know I will do the right thing. TYJ